Spring Treats

I saw this beautiful blossom at a neighbor’s house on my morning walk yesterday. I had to return home and pick up my camera to capture the beauty of this Argentine Giant Cactus. Having to go home for my camera has been happening every few days. At least photography and the treats of spring are making me take extra steps in my walks.

Lastly, a treat was corresponding with a person who is cataloguing a huge cookbook collection. I wrote about how he discovered my great grandmother’s cookbooks and sent me the one missing book in my collection HERE.

He contacted me to let me know his story about my great grandmother was up on Cookbook Collectors and Lovers, a Facebook page. It truly touched my heart to see my great grandmother have such a tribute. HERE is a link to the FB page which includes photos of her, plus scanned images of her cookbook covers and recipes.

If you’re not on FB, here is his story about my great grandmother Ella Leighton Upton Owen:

Cataloging a collection of this size comes with many quiet pleasures, but among the most satisfying is the chance to discover, research, and learn the stories of the men and women who made meaningful contributions to early American culinary history.

I’m sure that names like Marion Harland, Sarah Tyson Rorer, Thomas J. Murrey, Maria Parloa, and Fannie Farmer may come to mind for those of you who collect from and study this era, and rightly so. But for every name we recognize, there are dozens of others who worked just as thoughtfully, just as ambitiously, and left behind something equally worthy of our attention. Today I want to introduce you to one of them.

This is Ella Leighton Upton Owen, or as she is better known through her books, Mrs. Dewitt C. Owen.

Over the better part of a decade, Ella produced what she called the Ripley Series – ten slim, self-published volumes issued out of Dixon, Illinois, beginning in 1898. They are modest little things, unpretentious in appearance and quietly confident in voice, and I cannot help but think that modesty is part of why history largely passed her by. She did not have a publishing house behind her, a cooking school to her name, or a column in a national magazine. What she did have was something harder to come by- a real point of view and the determination to put it out into the world on her own terms.

To self-publish ten volumes at the turn of the century, as a woman, in a small Illinois city, was no small act. It required not just the writing, but the financing, the distribution, and the sheer persistence to see it through again and again, across many years. She did all of it. While Fannie Farmer was being celebrated in Boston and Maria Parloa was filling lecture halls, Ella was quietly doing the same work from a small city, with no institutional backing and no guarantee that anyone beyond her immediate community and the churches she sold her books to would ever read a word she wrote.

She published anyway. Ten times over.

And she did it entirely by hand. The type was set by her own hand. The pages were gathered, aligned, and bound by her own hand, sewn or tied with thread or ribbon, depending on the volume. Every booklet that left her home was, in a very real sense, a handmade treasure. When you hold one today, you are holding something she touched at every stage of its making, from the first word on the page to the final knot in the binding. There is an intimacy to that which no commercial press could replicate, and which no amount of time has diminished.

Mrs. Owen’s books didn’t arrive all at once for me. That’s not how, as I’ve come to find out, this collection works. She surfaced the way the best discoveries do… a few booklets here, another a week later, more found tucked somewhere unexpected. Each time one was discovered I felt that particular pull that collectors will recognize, the sense that you’re holding something that wants to be understood. These weren’t just culinary curiosities. They were small, delicate, and deliberate objects that someone had conceived, written, financed, and sent out into the world with intention. By the time I found five, I knew I was looking for the rest. By the time I found eight, I was fully hooked.

But eight was where the trail went quiet.

I turned to research, hoping the historical record might fill in what these shelves couldn’t, and found almost nothing. For a woman who had produced ten volumes over the better part of a decade, Mrs. Owen had left behind a remarkably faint paper trail. No obituaries of note. No contemporary reviews I could locate. No mention in the culinary histories that line the shelves. It was as though she had done all of that work and then simply slipped beneath the surface of the record. It was a little frustrating, and more than a little intriguing.

Then I found a blog.

That blog belonged to, as I would soon discover, Mrs. Owen’s great-granddaughter. Her name is Elizabeth Wickham.

That changed everything, and it led somewhere that I could never have expected.

I took a chance and reached out, not entirely sure what to expect. When Elizabeth wrote back, I was genuinely delighted! What followed became one of the genuine privileges of this entire cataloging project.

It was through Elizabeth that I first learned Ella was known to her family simply as Nellie, and with that small detail, the woman behind the booklets suddenly felt a great deal closer. The historical record had given me an author. Elizabeth gave me a person. She filled in the contours that no library ever could, telling me who Nellie was within her family, how she moved through the world, and what she cared about beyond the page. I am still turning much of it over.

And then, in the course of our exchange, I learned something that stopped me in my tracks. Elizabeth and her family did not own the complete Ripley Series. One title, Sixteen Studies in White and Gold, had always eluded them and never made it into their personal collection of Ella’s works.

At the time, the owner of this collection had only a single copy in their possession. But I wrote to Elizabeth and told her that if another surfaced, I would send it out, and that if any collection was going to have it, it would be this one.

Can you believe that not even a week later, I found not one, but two additional copies! I don’t necessarily believe in fate, but you can’t tell me this wasn’t meant to be. The very next day, I put one in the mail. I am extremely pleased to say that their collection is now complete.

There’s a beautiful symmetry in it. Nellie produced these little objects as gifts for the world, and a century later, one found its way home.

Mrs. Wickham is currently working on republishing the complete works of Mrs. Owen in the near future. If you would like to follow her blog and learn more about the life of her great-grandmother, you can find that here-

https://bleuwater.me

Can you imagine when this magnificent cactus is in full bloom? I’ll be checking each day with my camera in hand! What another spring treat!

What are your favorite things about blogging and spring?

I almost fell for it!

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A visit by a Harris Hawk.

They almost had me. I was on Facebook for the Creative Women of Pinnacle Peak’s page. That’s the charity I volunteer for to help victims of sex trafficking. I’ve written about the group and our focus HERE and HERE.

Wojtek was a Syrian brown bear adopted by soldiers of the 2nd Polish Corps during World War II. As a young cub, his mother was shot by hunters, and he was found in the mountains of Iran by a young boy. The boy then sold him to a group of Polish soldiers who were in the country after being evacuated from the Soviet Union. Wikipedia

What phishing scams have you seen in your inbox, texts or online?

Parents cashing in on kids

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Laguna Beach picture of my kids from around 2001.

My daughter shared an article with me that she thought I’d find interesting for my blog. It’s from Teen Vogue — which she said is not behind a paywall — and has more interesting articles than fashion like “What’s hot for summer.”

In “Influencer Parents and The Kids Who Had Their Childhood Made Into Content” by FORTESA LATIFI, I learned about parents who cashed in on their kids on social media.

Here’s an excerpt:

Claire, whose name has been changed to protect her privacy, has never known a life that doesn’t include a camera being pointed in her direction. The first time she went viral, she was a toddler. When the family’s channel started to rake in the views, Claire says both her parents left their jobs because the revenue from the YouTube channel was enough to support the family and to land them a nicer house and new car. “That’s not fair that I have to support everyone,” she said. “I try not to be resentful but I kind of [am].” Once, she told her dad she didn’t want to do YouTube videos anymore and he told her they would have to move out of their house and her parents would have to go back to work, leaving no money for “nice things.”

When the family is together, the YouTube channel is what they talk about. Claire says her father has told her he may be her father, but he’s also her boss. “It’s a lot of pressure,” she said. When Claire turns 18 and can move out on her own, she’s considering going no-contact with her parents. Once she doesn’t live with them anymore, she plans to speak out publicly about being the star of a YouTube channel. She’ll even use her real name. Claire wants people to know how her childhood was overshadowed by social media stardom that she didn’t choose.  And she wants her parents to know: “nothing they do now is going to take back the years of work I had to put in.” 

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/influencer-parents-children-social-media-impact

It would be easy to judge these parents as monsters. But, I am thankful Instagram and TikTok did NOT exist when my kids were young. Wait, I’ll retract my statement and call it exploitation of children. I guess that’s being judgmental, right?

I had Facebook when my kids were growing up and my pages were an embarrassing brag-site of my amazing, marvelous kids! It’s nauseating to look back on.

As my daughter got older, her friends would bully or tease her about awkward tween years’ photos I posted. She asked me to NOT post anything about her without permission. I mostly followed her wishes. Maybe slipping up a few times.

Although I look negatively at parents who use their children as cash cows, like I said, I’m glad it wasn’t something I had an option to do. Unlike TV and movie parents, there are no protections for kids who are content on their parents’ social media sites. The article goes into detail about how contracts with TV and movies have protections for children and they get money put into a trust.

By the way, I also didn’t think it was right for swim parents to put pressure on their swim kids to earn college scholarships. I had a weekly column about swim parenting HERE. Too much pressure, period. However, if a scholarship did happen, that’s icing on the cake of all the valuable lessons and friendships gained through sports.

I look at the harm social media has done to our kids who grew up with it. Suicide, depression, anxiety and eating disorders are running rampant. I wonder how these teens are doing who were used as influencers since toddlerhood?

I have a weekly zoom call where we talk about all sorts of current subjects. We are a variety of ages, religions and a spectrum of political persuasions. One of the topics we’ll talk about next week is social media and our youth. Here’s A LINK to a Surgeon General’s Advisory from the Department of Health and Human Services that I received from the group yesterday. In the article is a pdf from the Surgeon General.

What thoughts do you have about parents using kids as influencers on social media? What thoughts do you have about the affects of social media on our youth?

Why I deactivated facebook

Here I am at a wedding Friday with my new friend.

We drove five and a half hours to a wedding Friday. If it wasn’t for my dear friend’s daughter, I don’t think we would have made the trip after driving nine hours home from vacation the weekend before. But we did it. Yes! I’m tired!

I wore a bright print dress in blue, green and white. When we first walked into the wedding crowd, I spotted a woman wearing the same dress! I waved to her and she walked over and we laughed.

“You know it’s reversible,” she said.

I had never met this person before. She is related to the groom and I am friends with the bride’s family.

We were interrupted by our husbands who informed us it was time to take a seat for the ceremony.

The wedding was lovely. It was held outside near San Diego at Mt. Woodson’s Castle — a stone mansion built in the 1920s that’s now a wedding venue.

After the ceremony, I bolted to the bathroom and flipped my dress inside out. Now I was wearing black with white polkadots!

I saw my new friend and she said “You didn’t have to do that!” I asked my husband to take a picture of us. I wanted to share it with a high school friend who sold me the dress. I thought she’d get a kick out of how the reversible dress came to the rescue.

I posted the picture on Instagram and tagged her. It automatically posted on facebook.

One of my other high school friends commented on my pic in a very suggestive way. It was creepy. It made me want to take the photo down. Then I thought, I rarely use facebook, I’m reading all sorts of negative things about facebook in the news. Let’s be done with it!

That’s why I deactivated my account.

It’s not deleted. I can restart it any time. The only reason why I would do that is for the years and years of photos that are housed there. I may want to download them. Then delete it for good.

Do you use social media? Why or why not?

Remembering a friend on her birthday

One of my closest friends from childhood passed away unexpectedly a few years ago. I woke up realizing that today is her birthday. The pain of losing her has lessened over time. But I still miss her.

Rebecca with my baby girl
Rebecca with my baby girl.

I learned via Facebook that my dear friend Rebecca had passed away.

She had a huge personality, was fearless, beautiful and brilliant. I received private messages from her on Facebook constantly, and I noticed I didn’t reply to the last one which I received on a Saturday afternoon—the day she died.

I wonder if she knew she was leaving us? I had no idea that she was ill, but I’ve since learned that she had diabetes and died from DKA (Diabetic ketoacidosis).

The first time I met Rebecca was at my own house. Her older brother Paul had been hanging out with our family for a few weeks that summer before seventh grade. One day, Rebecca decided to come over to our house with him because she wanted to meet me. We went to different elementary schools but for junior high the town’s elementary school students would all attend the same school. I was shy and wouldn’t leave my bedroom to meet her. Finally, my mom coaxed me out to meet Rebecca Coombs and our friendship of a lifetime began.

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The last photo she sent me of herself. “When my baby grand wants a kiss, I oblige. Sir-Mix-Alot this as good as I can get! lol.”

She was the opposite of me in so many ways. She was bold, outgoing and not afraid of anyone or anything. Her long straight black hair hung past her waist and she had a huge smile. Some of my fondest memories were her introducing me to Taco Bell—which I still love today. I got a burrito supreme today in her honor. Also, because of Rebecca, our entire high school won the local radio station KJR’s competition for a free concert—which was the first rock concert I ever attended, “WAR.” I went with her to see Natalie Cole at the Paramount in downtown Seattle, too. She introduced me to so much music and laughter. I remember always laughing with Rebecca and her sister Mary. Mary became as close of a friend to me as Rebecca.

Rebecca was one of a few students from our high school that went to the University of Washington with me. I remember spending the first night in the dorm, with Rebecca in a sleeping bag on my floor.

Me and Rebecca 24 years ago.
Me, Rebecca and my baby girl.

My sophomore year Thanksgiving weekend, I was home and I went with Rebecca and Mary to a concert at a local Grange. I was going to ask a family friend who was there to a Tolo (a dance where the girls ask the boys for the date). We were crossing the street on the Bothell Highway when I panicked at the oncoming lights of cars. I froze in the middle of the street. I grabbed onto Rebecca’s parka hood and she wasn’t able to escape the oncoming pick-up truck either. I shattered my pelvis and Rebecca lost a kidney. We became connected by that one experience forever.

Later on, she married the family friend who I was going to ask to the dance. The marriage didn’t last that long and she did find someone she said was the love of her life, who sadly died a few years ago. Also, her brother Paul died years ago as well as Mary’s husband. Her life had so much tragedy, yet she stayed positive and filled with joy. Near the end, she moved to Hawaii to be close to her son Jake, who she was so proud of. She posted pictures of her new life and her grandchildren whom she called “the grands.”

I will admit she was much better at reaching out and staying connected. Throughout our lives, she’d call me and during the last few months send me private messages on an almost daily basis. One funny story I remember about Rebecca was she called me up and asked who Bill Gates was. She had attended the Microsoft Christmas Party with a friend who worked there and met Bill Gates. She had no clue who he was. It was well known in Seattle that Bill was looking for a wife. He had asked her to Sunday Brunch and she said no. She told me that he was kind of a geek and she was felt awkward and made up an excuse why she couldn’t go.

I miss my dear friend and how full of life she was. God bless you and RIP, Rebecca.

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Rebecca, her husband Andrew and son Jake plus my kids.

Tweeting to the choir

Of all the social media platforms, I spend more time on Twitter than others. I rarely use Facebook. I use Instagram occasionally. But I look at Twitter every day. It’s my way of keeping up with current events. By seeing what’s “trending,” I learn about earthquakes, elections and breaking news. I also look up how my sports teams are doing and can find out almost instantly if they are winning.

I follow a few writers and other people I like on Twitter. I never comment or get involved in the many Twitter feed fights. My WordPress shares my blog posts automatically to Twitter and I get a few readers that way. When I wrote for SwimSwam weekly, I’d retweet my stories they tweeted as well as other ones that caught my interest — like my daughter’s college swim team results.

In a short snippet from Investor Business Daily (IBD) on their To The Point page, under the Trends column I read:

Tweeting to the Converted

Most Americans do not use Twitter, and of those who do, a minority of active users produce nearly all the tweets, a new study finds. A quarter of U.S. adults use Twitter, and among users, the most active 25% produced 97% of all tweets, a study from Pew Research Center finds, confirming similar findings in 2019. Among highly active users, most tweets are either retweets (49% of the total) or replies (33%), with original tweets just 14% of all posts…

IBD A2 To The Point, Week of November 22, 2021

I would have added a link, but this newspaper is one of our old-fashioned paper types that lands on our driveway.

My takeaway from the article above is that people who take Twitter as a pulse of the nation shouldn’t. It’s a tiny slice of the pie and most likely doesn’t reflect anything more than the opinion of a very vocal few.

What is your favorite social media platform? Do you use Twitter to follow news, sports or current events or are you hands off?

Tweet of Oct. 21 Elizabeth Wickham blog post. What's healthy and tastes good.
For my plant-based friends, this post offered a tasty recipe. This is what my tweets from my blog look like.