We drove five and a half hours to a wedding Friday. If it wasn’t for my dear friend’s daughter, I don’t think we would have made the trip after driving nine hours home from vacation the weekend before. But we did it. Yes! I’m tired!
I wore a bright print dress in blue, green and white. When we first walked into the wedding crowd, I spotted a woman wearing the same dress! I waved to her and she walked over and we laughed.
“You know it’s reversible,” she said.
I had never met this person before. She is related to the groom and I am friends with the bride’s family.
We were interrupted by our husbands who informed us it was time to take a seat for the ceremony.
The wedding was lovely. It was held outside near San Diego at Mt. Woodson’s Castle — a stone mansion built in the 1920s that’s now a wedding venue.
After the ceremony, I bolted to the bathroom and flipped my dress inside out. Now I was wearing black with white polkadots!
I saw my new friend and she said “You didn’t have to do that!” I asked my husband to take a picture of us. I wanted to share it with a high school friend who sold me the dress. I thought she’d get a kick out of how the reversible dress came to the rescue.
I posted the picture on Instagram and tagged her. It automatically posted on facebook.
One of my other high school friends commented on my pic in a very suggestive way. It was creepy. It made me want to take the photo down. Then I thought, I rarely use facebook, I’m reading all sorts of negative things about facebook in the news. Let’s be done with it!
That’s why I deactivated my account.
It’s not deleted. I can restart it any time. The only reason why I would do that is for the years and years of photos that are housed there. I may want to download them. Then delete it for good.
Do you use social media? Why or why not?
I don’t use FB much and not a fan of the rest of the social media
I rarely look at FB anymore too. It’s easy to let it go.
Yes, it is. The initial euphoria we experienced when we connected with people from school, college and work has faded away to ennui.
Well said. Plus this one old friend makes me feel uncomfortable with the suggestive innuendos.
Perhaps they cover an envy she has for you.
It’s a he. I don’t know if he posts the same things on other women’s FB, or if it’s just me.
Oh I see! Must be uncomfortable!
Very! I’m a 60-year-old woman married for 37 years! I feel like I’m being stalked.
I can imagine! BTW, I too am 60 and have been married for 37 years. 😍
Yeah, I scrapped (completely deleted it) my Facebook page a few years ago when I remembered I wasn’t 10 years old. No TikTock, No Instagram, No Snapchat, no Twitter. Even deleted my Linked-in. All I have is WordPress because kids do not have the patience to be bothered with it.
Good for you! FB was fun when it started — reconnecting with college and childhood friends. A few I see in person and that’s much better.
Yeah, but reconnecting with old friends leaves the potential for more visitors who need a bunk to sleep while they are vacationing in Florida. I did not need them for the 30 years before Facebook, I do not need them now. When it comes to friends, local is better.
That’s true. But one or two friends from my high school moved back to our hometown. When I visit my mom, it’s fun to see them. Or, bunk at their house!
The operative word there is “see”.
I still have FB because there are a few online games I like that I can’t get anywhere else! Other than the blog, I am invisible and I like that.
That’s good. Invisible is a nice place to be.
I’m still on Facebook because all of my family I never see is active there. Plus I get more views on blog posts from there than anywhere else
Interesting. I have a separate FB page for my blog and it used to get a lot of views, but rarely does now. I think it’s because I posted my weekly SwimSwam columns there, too and they got a lot of readers.
I left Facebook two years ago. I don’t miss it at all.
I love the dress story, and I love that you two got a picture together. I’m sorry your classmate had to say something that tainted your memory.
I don’t think I’ll miss FB either. We were laughing about reversible clothing and how older people like it. I never knew that! I guess I’m old! The comment was something like “softer than a she-mouse’s belly.”
I have insta, which I rarely use. I have Facebook, which I rarely use. That’s it. I don’t like it
I loved FB when I first joined. Lately, not so much. I like Instagram because of friends and family who are active on it.
I come back to this question every few months. I think about doing more with the blog via social media, but I’m not the best at spinning/marketing my own work so I don’t get too far. Outside of the blog, I have FB and I’m somewhat active, but then I go through stretches where I rarely pick it up. It’s probably too short of time, but have you missed anything so far?
Years ago. I used to be on FB daily. Lately, I don’t use it more than once or twice a month. When I wrote a weekly parenting advice column for SwimSwam, I found posting the stories helped boost readership, for my blog not much. I haven’t missed anything. I still look at Instagram.
Left Facebook years ago. I was getting to wrapped up in other people’s drama. Plus, most of those “Friends” never reach out in real life.
I agree with you. Most of the “friends” don’t reach out in person.
This is such a great story. I’ve always had that fear of arriving at a wedding or cocktail party with the same dress as another woman. My response would be, “YOU have GOOD TASTE!” LOL – what else could we say. Good luck that your dress was reversible! You look good! Facebook – I’ve never been a fan. True, every once in a while we see a picture we would have missed or read a message that was nice, but total waste of time, really. I wanted to delete my account, but many companies are on Facebook and certain things we want to do, we need to use THEIR Facebook site. Also, I think Instagram is tied to Facebook too. I’m not on it, but AGAIN some companies I might want to follow use Instagram. So, it’s hard to get away from it 100% depending on what we do in life.
Thank you for the compliment! Yes, there are business reasons to stay on FB. Socially, I don’t need it in my life. I have decided to stay away from drama on social media and in my real life.
Drama FREE, best way to live!
Yes! I’m striving for drama free.
Sorry that happened to you. Sounds like you did the right thing. I used to like FB a long time ago but its changed and I don’t use it that much anymore. I hate the way social media can be so misused! WP is my favorite type of social media. 😊
I never considered WP social media, but it is!
I used to be a heavy Facebook user when I was 17. I’m talking albums everytime I go anywhere. Not many people interacted with me so I thought nobody saw the images. Then I found out someone downloaded all my images onto her laptop and showed her entire family. I felt stalled. I didn’t know you could download an image from Facebook. So I deleted everything and started over, but without pictures. Once I got married, I got into Instagram and eventually deactivated Facebook. 2 years later I made another account just to stay in touch with my brother who doesn’t have Instagram. I have Facebook now but I don’t post on it and I rarely ever go on it.
That’s a little creepy that someone downloaded all your images!
Yes, it was! I freaked out, and she was acting like it was something normal. At least she told me she did it! Many people would do it and not say anything and you would be none the wiser.