After wandering around my house in shock for a couple days because of my mom’s sudden death, I headed to Berkeley to be with my kids. This was a preplanned trip which I think came at a remarkable time. My son is having foot surgery and he asked me to come up and take care of him for a few days.
I think this will help keep me busy and distracted. I think being with both my kids will be more helpful to me than I will be to them!
Of course the weather is supposed to be absolutely miserable with pouring down rain every day. I’m sitting at the airport in Phoenix with the blue skies surrounding me. I was worried about flying Southwest, but they seem to be back on schedule.
Here’s to my children and getting through my waves of grief. Here’s a link to my story about my mom.
If you lost someone in your life recently, what was most helpful for you to handle greiving?
Sending you hugs. I hope your son’s surgery goes well.
Thank you. He had foot surgery last year, and today they are removing pins.
Ouch! I need to see my doctor for that discussion.
They told him a year ago they might have to be removed.
Mine has told me that he will remove them if they give me trouble. I’ll see him on 13th.
That’s what the doctor told my son. I think his bone was degenerating around the pins.
All the best
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Allow yourself to feel. I haven’t lost anyone but all four of our parents have illness. I just try to allow myself room
My husband lost his parents. This is a new experience for me. Except we did lose several friends this past year which was hard.
Losing someone, grief, is hard..go easy on yourself. 💗
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I am so sorry for your loss! Losing a loved one is so hard, and losing them suddenly is like jumping into a pool, thinking life is good, ready for refreshing water and halfway down you see its a cement pool!
Best advice I can think of is be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve. There is no timeframe on grieving!! ❤
So glad you can be with your children right now.
Thank you. This week I’m thankful to be with my kids. I like your pool analogy.
You are very welcome!
I lost my brother suddenly, when I was 13. The pool anslogy just popped in my head for that was how it felt.
I am so sorry for your loss at such a young age.
Thanks! It was indeed very hard, but it also made me more empathetic to others.
That’s looking at the bright side.
When it has been over 30 years ago, you are able to see clearer. ❤Of course I would have rather learned empathy in a much different way!
One of my best friends lost her younger brother when she was around your age. You made me realize that she is very empathetic and a wonderful friend to those around her, including helping out elderly neighbors.
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Continuing on with life. When my mom died, I was lucky to have my husband and brothers nearby. Things were decided very quickly. The saddest was my dad saying, “Well, that is it.” It was not and he stayed with us for another 2 years-one year with my brother and one near us. Moving forward, continuing with the details. Wishing you the best.
Thank you. How long ago did you lose your mom?
2001…not that long after 9/11. My mom, a native New Yorker, was alive and watching. I still remember her reaction. With time, this too shall pass was one of her lines I liked.
I’m sorry she had to watch 9/11 in New York. My husband worked for a brokerage firm and although we were in CA watching on TV and seemed distant, my husband lost friends in the firm.
My brother and his wife worked at NYU Medical Center and told us many things about that day. I often wonder if any of my college friends were in the WTC as I went to University near NYC. That was truly a turning point for the city. Hope this year is good for all.
You brother and wife must have had a tough day!
Both are now retired but yes, my brother left the City and reduced his time there to part time. Now they live in Virginia in a cute little town.
👍🏼That must have been so painful to be in the city then.
We all react and handle the death of someone important in such different ways. I would say just do what feels right to you EA and know that those feelings will likely change often. Handling grief might be a misnomer. I think it handles us and we just have to roll with what comes.
That is what it feels like. I’m just muddling through.
Yes, and that’s okay. I hope the kid trip will help all of you.
A change of scenery and being needed is helping.
Sending you so much love. ❤️
Thank you! I appreciate it.
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