Feeling grateful and sad

pug with sad face
Waffles my daughter’s pug.

I’m grateful for the support my daughter is getting on the loss of her friend and teammate. Her distance coach is calling and checking up on her. She was the one who called my daughter to break the news. Then, she got a call from the head coach. He told her that he was there for her if she ever needs to reach out and that he loved her.

I’m grateful for my son, his girlfriend and her family for living so close and being there for her. I also am thankful for Waffles and his unconditional love and affection to my daughter.

I’ve been worried about my daughter because she just moved into an apartment for the first time in her life living alone. She’s extremely sad and my calls with her haven’t helped. Like I said earlier this week in a post, “I don’t know to say.”

Everybody grieves in their own way. My husband said he compartmentalizes everything and brings it out a little bit at a time when he can face it. I’m the opposite and want to dwell and talk and work through the process immediately. I don’t think any way is right or wrong. But we need to have connection with other people for love and support.

I feel helpless that I can’t give my daughter hope. She told me that everything is miserable and she has no hope that anything will ever change. I know she’s hurting and I pray that after she attends her friend’s funeral in a few days that she will find some comfort among his family and friends who love him.

I can’t wait to see her next week to tell her in person that I love her and give her a big hug.

How can you give someone hope? Is there anything more painful to a parent than seeing their children hurting?


15 thoughts on “Feeling grateful and sad

  1. There is nothing more painful than seeing a child hurt. Sometimes you have to just let them get it out. Sometimes they just don’t feel hope. Tell them you love them and just be there to listen

  2. Ok. The voice of reason. Your answer is in your post picture, because no human can EVER offer the comfort that your dog does. Your dog feels the grief and shares that grief without ever saying a word and not really ever knowing what is causing the grief (and doesn’t really care WHY, just that it IS). It can tell when you are sad, lonely, happy, tired, comatose, excited, depressed….and knows EXACTLY how to comfort you. It can make you laugh when you need it, cry when you need it, and run around outside to pee when you need to. It knows that if you throw enough snacks at a problem, it eventually wears off. This is where she will find her recovery: Waffles. Not mom, not Dad, not other friends. Waffles.

  3. That’s a tough one, I have to agree with L A, listen, let her feel the pain in her own way, tell her she’s loved and by not fixing it you’re telling her it’s okay to feel horrible when you’ve had horrible news. 💕C

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