My daughter’s pug Waffles as an energetic pup.
I was so looking forward to my kids’ visit. Now that they are gone, I’m in a bit of a funk. I figured it out when I don’t want to eat. I don’t want to leave the house for my morning walks. I can tell my husband is a little worried about me.
Unfortunately when my two adult kids, new bride and her brother were here, things didn’t go exactly as planned. We had a heat wave and since they all live in the Bay Area, the heat doesn’t agree with them. Then the AC went out their last night in the casita and DIL got very sick.
And I got scared!
She vomited for hours. They finally decided to pack up and leave. Once she was in the AC of the car, she felt much better. I worried about her health unlike anything I’ve felt before. I realized how vulnerable she is. How vulnerable we all are.
I’m trying to leave Funkytown. We’re headed on a weekend getaway to Mexico, which is a four-hour drive away. The beach always makes me feel better. In the meantime, I have a community newsletter to complete and will keep moving.
What’s your secret for getting out of a funk?
Oh, I’m so sorry Elizabeth. “I worried about her health unlike anything I’ve felt before.” You’re worried about her and then she gets sick visiting, it’s natural to feel that way. It’s great to heat that she’s doing better. Sounds like you have the right idea though . . . keep moving. Hope you have a great time away. (It’s a little known medical fact, the beach cures everything.) Hang in there!
Thank you Brian. Now you know why I was so affected by your post earlier this week. She did go to her oncologist for more chemo and also a blood test. Everything is 100% for her and she’s feeling so much better. But I was a sad Mom. Can’t wait for the beach.
I hope my post didn’t add to the funk! 😓 Glad to hear she’s feeling better. Be sure to give yourself time!!!!! ☀️⛱️🌊🐠🦞
Your post didn’t add to my funk. It was like we were on the same page. Our son called with good news that her blood tests came back better than ever. That’s such a relief!
Oh, wow, that’s awesome!!!! That’s got to be such a weight off your shoulders. Really cool. Go relax now and celebrate!!!!
I will! You can’t imagine how much I worried until they were home safely and back at the oncologist.
I think you might want to step back EA, and just give yourself permission to be and feel right now. All of you are dealing with SO much, and even normally peppy, happy, upbeat folks reach a limit. Then society adds the pressure to snap back or ignore and move on and I think that’s wrong. While I hope that a weekend away brings some calm and relief I think it may be unrealistic to expect a great change, especially once you get home as life is still in flux and your world has been upended. Please don’t let the pressure of what others define as normal define you and how you process. You are doing the best that you can with a lot of hard, traumatic stuff right now. Sending hugs.
Thank you, Deb. I have slowed down my days. We had planned the beach trip to Mexico a couple months ago. I’m sure I’ll enjoy the beach walks, but I’m taking time for myself, too. I appreciate your thoughtful comment.
Hugs. That’s so hard . I’m praying for you. I’ve been funky too. Yesterday I prayed hard for God to change my perspective and trust Him. I truly do feel better now.
Yes, I’m taking more time to pray. I think it’s okay to allow ourselves times to be in a funk. Life is not all sunshine and roses, even though I wish it was!
It sure isn’t and I agree that it’s okay to be sad because life can be really hard and sad. I just can’t let myself lose hope.
That’s right. We can’t lose hope.
I appreciate the supportive comments I read below…and agree. Some time away might be just the thing…and the cascade of hot weather and your DIL’s episode must’ve been so scary and disconcerting…two things you could do nothing about and I know you’re a ‘fixer’ at heart. Give yourself some grace…it sounds as if you’re headed to a restorative place. Let the beach soothe you in every way it can and know that I’m sending hugs and love. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you, Vicki. It was so scary to see her so ill and realized I could do nothing to help her. It’s not the way I envisioned our time together. The good news is she’s much better now and her tests show she’s doing as well as possible. The beach walks always make me feel better — along with seafood. I’m looking forward to a change of scenery.
Keep me posted on how you’re doing…I’ll be sending good vibes…always. 💕💕💕
Thank you. It’s comforting to have all this kind support.
Of course…I just wish I were near to give you a big old, regular hug. 🥰🤗🥰
That must have been so hard. I agree with Deb that taking a step back can help us see things more clearly. I hope you enjoy your weekend away and give yourself some grace and breathing room. ❤️
Thank you. I am taking a step back and I’m giving myself room to relax. I’ve cancelled several neighborhood engagements like our HOA Fall social, because I just don’t feel up to it. I have no regrets for time for myself.
Yes to the beach! The waves and the sunshine will be helpful. I usually hit the studio when I’m feeling funky.
There’s something so soothing about being by water. I’m glad we planned this trip. That’s so good you have a creative outlet.
I’m so sorry Elizabeth that things didn’t go as planned. I hope you’re daughter in law is better now?
I hope your getaway puts you in better mood. When I feel down, I try to read a favorite book, or blog, or listen to music. Wishing you a happy and stress free time. Hugs
Thank you. Yes, her blood tests came back better than they’ve been so far. She’s feeling much better. I’ve been spending lots of time reading, which brings me joy.
That’s great then, and now you should not worry too much. Alls well that ends well.
Thank you! 😊
Take care my friend
You are a very compassionate person, and you are most likely an empath. You’re feeling her suffering, which is probably draining. I think the getaway will be helpful for you and your husband. I’m sending healing vibes to your daughter-in-law and son. Much love to all of you. 😘❤️
Thank you for your warm thoughts and comment. I love the support.
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I’m so sorry that everything didn’t go as planned but I’m glad you were able to spend some time with your kids. It sounds like some down time at the beach will be just the thing to get you on an even keel again.
Thank you! Now we need safe travels across the border and I’m all set!
Oh, that’s hard, Elizabeth. I think writing about it is a very good way to work through. Did it make you feel any better?
Thank you, Wynne. It really did. I had a wonderful dream after writing this and woke up feeling happy. (Friday’s post.) Also, my DIL stellar blood tests were such a relief. I was worried the trip was too much for her.
I’m sorry to hear this, Elizabeth, but I hope she’s doing better and that you have a relaxing, safe time away.
Thank you.
I can understand why you were worried. If you have a tendency to be empathetic, like you do, then anyone’s ill health can pull you down. A bit of distance, a bit of distractions from daily life, that’s my secret for getting out of a funk.
That’s what I was hoping would happen with a quick trip to the beach. I worried so much about my DIL, son and daughter because it hit me how sick she really is. Also how much my son and daughter love her 💕
I need to add how much we love her too!
Oh my God. I’m reading your posts backwards so I know what happened when you were crossing the border! I do a lot of self care when I’m in a funk. I have coffee with my sister, invite the grandkids over for some cookie baking, call a friend, read a really good book with a story that will distract me. I enjoy warm coffee and sit in the sun in the early morning just enjoying the quiet. I take a long bath, turn on the fire, buttered popcorn and an old movie. I make Larry worry about dinner, or we sip a glass of wine in the backyard and facetime the kids. Whatever you love, do it. I’m sending love and prayers your way. Hugs, C
Thank you, Cheryl. You’re getting a different perspective of what I’ve been going through! I was so sad that our DIL was so sick. It put it in real life what Stage 3C cancer means, how harsh chemo is. I agree I enjoy quiet moments in the backyard and reading good books. Next week, I have my sweet Aunt visiting me. I’m planning on using the fireplace and having S’mores with her! She’s my mom’s little sister by 13 years and we’ve always been close.