Decide how you feel

Here’s an excerpt:

For example, let’s imagine you have a job that is really bringing you down. Let’s say you are bored and stressed, and your boss isn’t competent. You come home every day tired and frustrated, and you wind up drinking too much and watching a lot of dumb television to distract your mind. Tomorrow, try a new tactic. During the day, take a few minutes every hour or so, and ask, “How am I feeling?” Jot it down. Then after work, journal your experiences and feelings over the course of the day. Also write down how you responded to these feelings, and which responses were more and less constructive.

Have you heard about metacognition before? What are your thoughts about “thinking about thinking?”

28 thoughts on “Decide how you feel

  1. I have been thinking since our conversation yesterday. We need freedom! Anxiety has never been so prominent. I have definitely heard journaling can help. I’ve never heard the term metacognition, but I have read that leaning in to different feelings can be advantageous. I think these are all good ideas, but the whole discussion makes me sad. It makes worry a foregone conclusion. I don’t believe God intended us to live enslaved to it. I want more for us than figuring out how to cope with it. I want us free from it!

  2. This is the first time I’ve heard this term. But long ago, my father in law used to tell us to step outside of our thinking and look at life from the visitors gallery. That is; look at the bigger picture and see how it is affecting our lives.
    This is very same advice and worth thinking about. Thanks for sharing

  3. Ooh, I’ll need to check out that full article. I’ve heard metacognition referred to as “mental models,” but the same idea–thinking about thinking. I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time on the topic. The way I see it, smart people have analyzed our thinking patterns, interpersonal dynamics, and the habits we naturally fall into and have leveraged that knowledge and created frameworks and tools to help us optimize all aspects of our lives, so it’s advantageous to study those things. But also, as you mention, check in with ourselves regularly to better understand (and adjust, if needed) the way we think.

    • I enjoy your insights on metacognition. I’m sure we all have patterns that we fall into and this analysis can help us break out of them into new behaviors. This also reminded me of your Five Whys from yesterday.

  4. Have you heard about metacognition before? I understand the concept but have never heard it called this which is a fine name for a good practice.

    What are your thoughts about “thinking about thinking?” I enjoy thinking about thinking. It was pretty much the crux of my graduate school degree in Communications. Bring it on, I say. Let’s think it through.

  5. I see thinking about thinking as a logic path along the journey of being inquisitive and curious. Digging down to the why so to speak rather than simply setting and stewing and living with old problems and issues. Clear them out I say, as there are certainly more waiting in line to be dealt with. Such is life I think and many would simply avoid the dealing part.

  6. I seem to always be trapped in reaction mode. Haven’t heard of metacognition before, but I did try cognitive therapy once and just couldn’t get the hang of it. My knee-jerk self has a hard time taking a time out to process. Believe me, I wish it were otherwise.

  7. You’ve introduced me to a new term, Elizabeth. With all the social-emotional-learning that kids are doing these days, it seems like we are starting to teach this at a young age. The metaphor of the weather is so good. Great post!

Leave a Reply