Parent tip about the college essay


I wrote this six years ago today. It’s a tip that I believe is valuable enough to share again. It’s directed to parents of incoming high school seniors and the students themselves. I wish someone would have shared this with me: get that college essay written, now. Over the summer, while you have time. I definitely don’t mean for the parent to write it of course! But, if you have any sway over your teen, get them started on it.

I’ll never forget the agony my son went through trying to write his essays close to the deadline. He suffered from so much anxiety and went through days of writer’s block. He said the essays were the most important thing he had to write in his life.

My son and friend at high school graduation.
My son and friend at high school graduation.

By procrastinating and putting it off until the end–into a busy time when he also had a half dozen AP classes and swim practice to worry about–“THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I’VE WRITTEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE” was too big a burden to deal with!

My son told me—during the summer when I suggested he get started—that the questions weren’t out yet. That’s what he said.

I have good news to share with you. The essay prompts for the Common App ARE out in the summer. You can take a look at them, and get some guidance here.  


If you can “suggest,” “encourage” or “force” your high school senior to get started on writing essays for their college apps, it may be the best thing you do for them all year. Tell them to get a rough draft done. Put it away for a week or two, dust it off and have them do a rewrite. Repeat this process during the summer. Then put it away until it’s time to fill out the college applications.

You should take a look at it, too. If they let you. If not, have them find a teacher or adult friend to review it. My son wouldn’t let me review his essays. Not that as a writer with a degree in editorial journalism and a 20-plus-year career in writing could I have offered him a bit of help. But, no. He had to do it the hard way. He did get one of his English Lit teachers to review his work, though.


Maybe your kids will take your advice and get the writing started early. They’ll also practice good habits which will serve them well when they are in college!

Writing the essays and taking time for revisions over the summer will definitely lift
a lot of senior pressure in the fall.

If your kids are older, how did they do with college essays? Was it difficult for them or easy? Did they procrastinate until the last minute like my son?

12 thoughts on “Parent tip about the college essay

  1. You gave very good advice. Procrastination usually results in stress.
    However, reasons vary widely for procrastination.
    Perfectionism is one of them.
    Thanks for sharing. Great photo too. ⚘🤗

  2. My daughter was really on top of her essay process. She bounced ideas off of my me but she was really a star. She used her own voice and it was perfect.

  3. 💜 Totally Agreed EveryOne; a Stream of Consciousness Starts from The Off and Can Be Edited and Polished Later


    • 💜 …and I NOT!!! a Parent; just a Wispy, Wierd Writer <- Kinda Alliteration but NOT!!! Really…


      • 💜 It’s Funny EveryOne; ALL that Stress and Pressure at School, Uni/College et al, NOW!!! I AM Back Where I Started and MisUsing Grammar, Punctuation and CAPS!!! 😂🤣😅😆😁😄😃😀🙂, The Cosmic Joke InDeed 🤪😜😝


      • 💜 Although, To Be Fair, Returning to The Purity of My Childlike State was a Journey of Education and Accepting or Respectfully Rejecting Said Education; so NOW!!! I AM Here Having Shed Pretty Much ALL of My UnWanted, UnWelcome Parental Conditioning, I AM a Proud KiDult 🥳


  4. 💜 Conventional Education (BEING TOLD WHAT TO DO THEN A FERVENT REBELLION!!!) and Energetic Education (SENSING!!!); right NOW!!! I AM Being Energetically Educated


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